June 20, 2013

The Schoolyard Reality: Learning Disability

It’s the slam of a door, the beginnings of a sob — your child goes thundering up the stairs, refusing to answer your calls, hurrying to the safety of her room. She flings herself onto her bed, tugging the sheets up high. And you can coax no explanations, are forced to simply… wait. The minutes are long and terrible; but they finally yield a word you can understand: mockery. She was teased at school, branded ignorant. All friends became traitors. All enemies became merciless. And she never wants to return.

You’re tempted not to let her.

Because your child suffers from a learning difficulty and this scenario is far too common.

Individuals who have some form of disability — whether trouble with reading, an inability to understand numbers or even a lack of vocalization for thoughts — are often the targets of bullying. Their perceived weaknesses mark them appealing to those who wish to gain power by hurting others. Cruel names and physical violence can be offered daily.

And for parents this is almost too much to bear.

They wish to take their children from school. They wish to keep them protected. And, while these feelings are understandable, they’re not entirely fair.

Any child with a learning disability should be exposed to the world. She can gain the skills to handle her problem, as well as make vital social connections. Parents must not simply take her from school, refusing to offer her the chance to receive a proper eduction. Teasing must first be addressed in other ways.

Speak with all teachers, informing them of your concerns. Talk with the parents of the bullying children. Involve your child with extracurricular activities, so she may make new friends and have a better experience. Teach her to be confident in herself and her talents.

These methods must first be attempted before you simply remove her from school. She deserves an education. You must allow her to have it.