February 23, 2012

Parenting a Child with Autism

Autism spectrum

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Children with autism don’t think the same way as other children and parenting a child with autism can be very stressful. If you’ve just found out that your child has autism, here are some tips for how to cope:

  • Learn all you can. The first step is to learn all you can about autism: what it is, how it will affect your child, and what you can do to help.
  • Develop a strong social network to help support you. You’ll need someone who you can lean on for emotional support such as a close friend. You’ll also need people who can help if you’re in a pinch, preferably those who understand your child and his or her behaviors.
  • Teach your family about autism. It’s important for you and your child that your family understand what autism is and how will affect your child. Children with autism often don’t understand social conventions, so they may something inappropriate, for example. Having your family understand will make things easier.
  • Get a behavioral therapist if possible. One of the best ways for your child to learn is through a behavioral therapist. This aide will help teach your child what is proper behavior in a way that a child with autism can understand. The aide can also help give you advice on how to deal with certain situations.
  • Learn about diet and medications. Another way you can possibly help your child is through dietary changes and medications. These may help lessen the severity of symptoms and help your child feel better.

The Motor Concerns: Learning Difficulty

It’s a sudden stumble, the impending crash of skin to concrete — you watch as your child falls (again), limbs sprawled out to absorb the impact, a cry startled from his lips. It’s an all too familiar sight; and you’re already running, prepared to battle the tears and bruises. They come as they always do. They’re familiar in their pain.

Your son is… clumsy, forever losing his footing, finding corners to collide with. He has no sense of balance, just as he has no talent for tying his shoes or riding his bike (an activity you no longer allow him to even attempt. You can’t bear the panic). His motor skills border on the non-existent.

You believe this to be just a phase, though. He’ll eventually grow into his equilibrium. He just needs time.

This assumption may not be correct, however. Your child may instead be suffering from an Output Disability — and this is far more serious than a simple bout of awkwardness.

An Output Disability is a disorder that disrupts the externalization of information. The mind can give a command for a movement, but the body will fail to carry it out. Instead youths will offer stilted speech patterns and disjointed gaits — with motor functions impaired.

For many parents (and teachers) such impairments are considered common, thought to be nothing more than simple childhood enthusiasm. But certain individuals may experience exaggerated symptoms — unable to walk, run, write or use tools as their peers do. Gestures are instead strange. And they must be recognized early to help establish aid.

Those who suffer from an Output Disability will require patience. All educators must understand that students will have difficulty with tasks as simple as mastering their pencils. Extra time and attention will be needed to help re-teach these functions, as well as taming any teasing that may be given from peers. Be prepared to repeat actions again and again until they are learned.